It is normal to have friends of the opposite sex. After all, we need to have contact with them more or less. But in real life, there are actually many people who approach each other under the guise of friends of the opposite sex, causing trouble to each other's emotional lives. Therefore, there must be a certain degree of control between friends of the opposite sex. Let’s talk about what the best state between friends of the opposite sex should be like?
1. Don’t contact each other at ordinary times, only care when something happens
If there is pure friendship between opposite sexes, then the normal state of concern should be that when there is nothing to do, do not contact the other party, let alone Send some words of concern to the other party; only when the other party has something to do or encounters difficulties, will you express your concern; and if the opposite sex cares about each other no matter what the matter is, then such behavior is tantamount to transcendence There is a certain limit; because the frequency of this kind of caring is too high, it is something that can only be done between lovers; so ordinary friends of the opposite sex cannot do this.
2. Concern in words but not in actions
In fact, ordinary friends of the opposite sex care about each other in their hearts. It does not have a very important status; so generally speaking, when the other party has something to do, as long as it is not a big deal, if you care about the other party, you will only talk about it, rather than put it into action; at most, you will just think about buying a gift. Go see each other; this requires expressing your caring heart according to the seriousness of the matter; in most cases, people of the opposite sex are very sensitive; therefore, you can only express your concern for each other verbally, but never say it to others. Put it into action; it is easy for others to have other opinions.
3. Show gentle concern to prevent the other party from misunderstanding
When friends of the opposite sex have something to do, then follow When the other party speaks in a caring tone, you can't show that you care very much. When expressing concern in a tone of voice, you should use a light tone to express your feelings and let the other party understand that you just treat the place as an ordinary place. Treat the other person as a friend; if you care about the other person and act very concerned, as if you are very concerned and anxious, then the other person may think that the other person exists in your heart, and you have fallen in love with the other person in your heart. The same; therefore, when the other party misunderstands you, other problems may arise when two people are together.
4. Give advice and greetings when you are sick
Between friends of the opposite sex, if one of you is sick and has a cold, you can give the other person a greeting, and of course you can also give the other person a greeting. Advice; but there is a very important question here, that is, your greetings, your advice, no matter what you said? You can't keep asking if the other person is okay the next day or the third day; because if you show that you care about the other person's physical condition, you will greet and give advice one after another.If you are with the other party, then the other party will definitely have other thoughts about you; between friends of the opposite sex, you only need to send greetings, and don’t worry about what happens to him in the end; otherwise, it will become a behavior between lovers. Other problems will arise.
5. Just a blessing during the New Year and the holidays
The normal concern of friends of the opposite sex is during the New Year and holidays. When the time comes, send a greeting and a blessing to the other person; don’t take anything else to heart; of course, if it’s Valentine’s Day, a holiday between lovers, or a special holiday, you can’t send blessings to the other person. Send greetings; because when you send them to the other party, many problems may arise; let the other party think that you have thoughts about the other party in your heart; especially on days like Valentine's Day, if you send greetings to the opposite sex, the other party will I feel that his presence in your heart makes it very awkward between the two of you, so you need to keep a certain distance.
