Every relationship inevitably goes from passionate love to dullness, from the sweetness and romance in the passionate love period to the conflicts and quarrels in the dull period. The more intense it starts, the more heartless it is when you leave. That kind of psychological gap is unacceptable to many people. So how do you warm up your relationship during a dull period? Let you not be afraid when your relationship encounters a dull period.
1. What are the symptoms of entering the dull period?
After entering the dull period, problems that were not discovered during the love period will be discovered and magnified.
First of all, you need to understand that it is normal for couples to enter a dull period, because no couple is in a passionate period of love all the time, and everyone's passion has a time limit. Therefore, we must face this problem with a correct attitude.
Secondly, each of us is an independent individual. No one in this world is exactly the same. Everyone has different habits, hobbies, experiences, and education, which results in different personalities. , also produced differences.
When these differences are magnified, the contradiction between two people will become bigger and bigger.
At this time, you want to try to transform the other person, or even turn her into the look of your dream lover. Your expectations may be expressed implicitly or explicitly.
For example:
Your partner is always procrastinating and has poor execution ability, and you don’t like it, so you feel that this behavior is not good, and you want to change him and let her Become a person who does not procrastinate in doing things, but you are too embarrassed to speak out, so you just get angry and express your dissatisfaction.
None of you are willing to accommodate each other and tolerate each other. Faced with your partner's various behaviors, you will feel disappointed and stressed. Both of you are demanding too much from each other emotionally, which can make an already fragile relationship teeter on the edge. Many people are not aware of this problem and always want the other person to accommodate them, but the person who accommodates them is also very aggrieved. After a long time, no one can support it. If you also encounter such a problem between you, you need to Readjust your mentality and don't let it go.
2. How to safely survive the flat period of relationships
Day after day of quarrels and conflicts, the distance between two people becomes farther and farther. Some people will be too lazy to deal with the situation during their tenure, and small problems will gradually turn into big problems, and eventually the two people will separate amidst complaints and accusations; others will work hard to improve the relationship and try to save the relationship through some communication skills.
1. Express your heart appropriately
You should take the initiative to express your thoughts and don’t always think Let the other person guess all the time. If you are dissatisfied or want the other person to change something, you can take the initiative to say it instead of letting the other person guess all the time. This kind of life will not only make your life very tiring, but also give the other person a huge benefit. pressure.
You have to take the initiative to give the other person the love they want, not the way you think they want. All giving must be based on respecting the other person and understanding the other person's needs. Only when you understand the other person's inner needs can you understand what kind of love the other person wants, and you can also understand how to express your love.
Maintain good communication, express your inner feelings accurately, and discuss the problems between you openly and honestly. As you communicate, reflect, and change, you will slowly discover changes in the other person, and the relationship between you will also change.
2. You don’t have to change the other person
Whoever suffers will change. Don’t always want others to change to adapt. Own.
If you want the other person to change, it is better to change yourself first, and then influence the other person through your own actions to achieve the purpose of changing her all at once.
Everyone’s family, education, experience, etc. have shaped different people, so everyone’s personality, temper, and habits are different. It is difficult to change a personality formed over decades. This does not happen overnight. can be changed easily. So don't try to change the other person, and don't have too much hope for a person. The greater the expectation, the greater the disappointment.
3. Convince yourself appropriately
In order to protect your intimate relationship, you can beautify the relationship appropriately. Make your relationship more harmonious.
When the other party does something that cannot meet your expectations, instead of blaming the other party, try to understand the other party first, why she did such a behavior, and whether the other party did it unintentionally; although She has shortcomings, but compared to her advantages, these are negligible.
Of course, in such a situation, you have to set a standard for yourself, what cannot be compromised, and what can be forgiven. Once you find that you have hit the bottom line, you must learn to stop losses in time.
A long-term and healthy intimate relationship is not about one party being patient all the time, nor about one party being unscrupulous, but about two people understanding each other, compromising each other, and facing problems not with suspicion and suspicion, but with trust and communication. I hope you can also find a partner with whom you can walk the flowery road together.
