Question: My girlfriend often gets angry over trivial things. I asked her if she was angry? She said she wasn't angry. I said I was wrong, I'm sorry, but she said you were right...
Because we are in different places, I rested at home last Sunday and did not go back to see her, nor did I contact her on my mobile phone. I called her at home all day. During the game, she got angry with me, but I finally managed to calm her down.
I went to take wedding photos the day before yesterday. Today, the people at the photo studio informed us to go see the photos. I chose a time myself without discussing it with her. Later, I felt it was wrong and added that I would discuss it first and then we would go. When I asked her, she said you should choose it yourself...
She told me not to send her flowers before. Today is the fifth anniversary of our acquaintance, and I think she is a little unhappy today. I ordered a flower basket online, but she was furious and said she would throw away the flowers. After some coaxing, she said she would definitely throw them away next time.
Some time ago, I was choosing a diamond ring. Because I didn’t know much about it and didn’t want to do any research, I said you can just pick it and I’ll pay for it. She wasn’t happy. She told me about the diamond ring today and it’s up to you. Well, she sent me the request and asked me to find it myself. She didn’t even say good night to me that night.
Yesterday, we were chatting and laughing together and went to a banquet. Today is also the anniversary. Suddenly, he first became cold and violent toward me, and then became furious.
I feel like how can I love so humblely? I keep coaxing her, blaming myself, and reflecting. I wonder if she doesn’t love me very much. I have also been pampered since I was a child, and to be honest, I can’t stand it.
What are the signs that my girlfriend doesn’t love me? Does it mean that your girlfriend doesn’t love you if she is often angry?
Answer:
As a girl, I think I can answer this question. To be honest, apart from what you said at the end, what did you say yesterday? You are attending the banquet with a smile. I can’t understand the fact that your girlfriend suddenly treated you coldly and violently today. I can also understand everything you said before. The following opinions are only from the perspective of a girl. You may find them a bit exaggerated or uncomfortable.
The first thing: You didn’t go to her during the break in a long-distance relationship
In a long-distance relationship, you didn’t go to her during the break, but played games by yourself for a day. Maintaining a long-distance relationship is inherently difficult. The two of you don't usually see each other, so you rely on your mobile phone to maintain your relationship every day. After a long time, you waited for you to rest, thinking that you could meet in person, but you didn't contact her all day.
Thinking a little more extreme, your girlfriend may have set aside a day off just for you. She didn’t even agree to a friend’s date with her. She put on makeup and waited for you to send her a message and tell her about you. What time did you go to find her, but you didn't see anyone all day long? Is this worth being angry about?
The second thing: Choose the time for wedding photos
When choosing photos for wedding photos, you decide the time yourself without discussing it with your girlfriend. marriageWere the two of you taking the wedding photo? So why did you decide the time yourself? In particular, the focus of wedding photos is actually your girlfriend. She put on makeup for several hours and changed many sets of clothes. She must be looking forward to it. However, you decided the time without asking her if it was convenient. In your girlfriend's eyes, you don't respect her at all.
The third thing is, you asked your girlfriend to choose a diamond ring by herself
I don’t understand, and I’m too lazy to research. Why are there these reasons? The wedding ring may be something your girlfriend cares about very much. It is a symbol of your marriage or relationship. Why do you leave such an important thing to her? If she didn't ask for your opinion at all about your wedding or your future house and made it completely according to her own preferences, wouldn't you also feel a little unhappy?
The fourth thing: not respecting her opinion
My girlfriend once said that she doesn’t like flowers. But you still sent flowers to your girlfriend even though she was unhappy. In fact, you have other choices. You can order a small cake, buy a milk tea, etc. These are all things that can express your feelings without making your girlfriend unhappy, but you chose something that your girlfriend doesn’t like. .
From the perspective of your girlfriend, although you expressed your feelings, you did not remember what your girlfriend said to you, or in other words, you knowingly did it. For another example, you and your girlfriend quarreled. In order to express her apology, your girlfriend cooked a meal for you, but the food she cooked was full of coriander, durian, and snail noodles that she knew you wouldn’t eat. A table has been set up. How do you feel?
In fact, judging from your description, I don’t think you are unaware of your problems. For example, you didn’t go to her, you chose the time for taking photos privately, you didn’t want to choose a diamond ring with her, you You know that your girlfriend doesn’t like flowers, but you still do it, so of course your girlfriend will be angry, but these are small things. Your girlfriend’s reaction may exceed your expectations, or you may feel that It's not necessary at all, but girls' minds are much more delicate than you think, so if you know your girlfriend will be angry, don't do it.
Finally, I don’t think your girlfriend doesn’t love you. On the contrary, she loves you very much, so she will be angry at many little things that you think are not worth being angry about, because she cares about you. Yes, so they will have relatively high requirements and expectations for you, just like parents for their children. Parents never get angry because other people’s children fail to do well in exams, right? Why? Because it's not his own child, what does it have to do with him?
Of course, this does not mean that your girlfriend loves you because she is often angry with you. To judge whether your girlfriend loves you, you also need to see whether she will give to you.
