Boys who have been in love know that it is easy for a maid to quarrel with you over a trivial matter and ignore them. Maybe you don’t care about something that doesn’t matter to a girl. You want to have a good talk with her. Even if you talk and get back together, she will ignore you and start a cold war with you. This situation is uncomfortable for both parties. So what should you do if your girlfriend quarrels and ignores you and has a cold war?
1. Resolve her with empathy
In your girlfriend’s mind, the quarrel between her and you is never big or small. The key is the boy’s attitude towards her when it happened. In her eyes, it can be seen from the attitude of a boy about a small matter that he doesn't care about her, which is a big deal in itself.
If your girlfriend often ignores you because of trivial things that you think are trivial, do you empathize with her and show understanding when asking for peace, and understand why she is angry/where you ignore her? Let her feel hurt, figure it out and understand why she is hurt, tell her that you understand her feelings, and then share your feelings with her on a united front to let her feel that you understand. And caring, this is the caring and caring attitude that girlfriends value.
When your girlfriend is angry, although it is not necessarily your fault, you are willing to understand why she is hurt and willing to help improve it. And adjust your behavior, your girlfriend will feel that such a boy is warm and reliable. When she opens her heart, gently remind her, "A cold war is not a good way to solve problems. If you try to express it to me because I am hurt in the future," your girlfriend will feel much better.
2. Be more understanding and tolerant of her
We all know the dangers of girlfriends quarreling and being cold-blooded and ignoring others. It will have a bad impact on both parties, but it is difficult to ask your girlfriend to change. It’s really difficult. Every girlfriend who is used to resorting to a cold war to avoid head-on conflicts is related to her immature way of dealing with conflicts and her experience of being hurt during her upbringing. Blaming her blindly will only make her become more constricted and closed off. Girlfriends should work hard to adjust themselves and no longer resort to cold violence (this is really difficult), but boys’ understanding, tolerance and support can help girlfriends open up their hearts faster and understand that there are other more mature ways to express their emotions. and dissatisfaction, and know how to express their needs.
In the process of love, in addition to your girlfriend herself needing to make changes, boys must learn to understand and tolerate her girlfriend's feelings, and don't blindly reason whenever there is a conflict. She knows the truth better than you, and being angry is just Because her feelings were ignored and the boy focused on me. What did I neglect to make her hurt? What should I do to make her feel cared about... Seeing you like this, which girlfriend would be angry and cold war with you?
Of course, if your girlfriend is quarreling, ignoring you, and having a cold war, it doesn’t matter how tolerant and understanding you are and how to resolve her, you girlfriendIf it even becomes more and more unreasonable, then you can think about whether there is any reason to continue your relationship. After all, unilateral efforts are tiring and powerless.
