If two people are just in love, then as long as they are happy together and have no conflicts, it will be fine. But if a man and a woman are planning to get married, they need to discuss the issue of bride price. Moreover, betrothal gifts generally vary by region, and the requirements for betrothal gifts vary in different regions. Today, the editor will explain to you how much do you usually pay for betrothal gifts in Shenzhen? Do all men dislike bride price?
1. How much are the betrothal gifts usually given in Shenzhen?
Shenzhen is also a first-tier city in my country, so the betrothal gifts are naturally not low. But when many people in Shenzhen marry their daughters, they don’t really care about the amount of the bride price, but the financial strength of the man. For example, if you want to get married, you must at least have a house in Shenzhen, at least 100 square meters, and 3 bedrooms. As for the car, the man shouldn’t be too bad. A Jaguar, Land Rover, or BMW will cost you just a few hundred thousand. If you want to book a banquet, it should start from 5 stars... If you calculate it this way, if you want to get married in Shenzhen, you will need at least several million - no limit. As for the betrothal gift, as long as you can meet the above conditions, you should not be able to afford the betrothal gift.
2. Do men dislike bride price?
I think everyone may have misunderstood. Who said men don’t support it? Betrothal gift? Most men can support bride price, but they only support "worthy" bride price.
To give a very common example:
A girl has ill-educated parents and a younger brother who is not married. The girl’s job is not very stable. It will be used by girls to supplement their family income. At this time, let alone the gift money, whether this man dares to marry is another matter.
But on the contrary, another woman, an only child, has five social insurances and one fund from a public institution. Her parents are old leaders of government agencies or have family businesses. Her family has three properties of more than 100 square meters in the urban area. The woman’s family is in If you have some real power or side business in a certain field, the gift money given will eventually be controlled by Xiaojia. At this time, let alone hundreds of thousands of betrothal gifts, even if it requires hundreds of thousands of betrothal gifts, the man may grit his teeth and do it.
Those comments of "supporting or opposing bride price every day" are not based on realistic considerations, and in fact they cannot withstand criticism. Regardless of whether they are men or women, once they become rational, they will often make the decision that is most beneficial to them after weighing the pros and cons. Man, it’s not that I don’t support betrothal gifts. You can give money. Even if the money is not a guaranteed profit, at least it won’t make me lose my pants.
If a man can get objective benefits from the money he spends on gifts, then if he spends some money, he will be able to do big things sooner or later. I’ve asked many male friends around me, and most of them really don’t object to betrothal gifts, but they only accept the following forms of betrothal gifts:
1. The man pays the bride price, the woman pays the dowry, and the man’s family can take more. , but the money is still used jointly by the small family.
2. All menWith the money to buy a house, the woman will pay for the car and decoration, and the bride price is only 66,880,000 yuan at most.
3. The man will pay the bride price and the down payment of the house, the woman’s family will be responsible for paying the mortgage, and the real estate notarization will write the names of two people.
At the core of all the above, men have one appeal in the final analysis: If I get married, I can ask my parents to help me, but if I have to drain my parents’ life savings, no way!
The relationship between "betrothal gifts" and "men and women" can be summed up as follows: when a man faces a woman with good conditions, as long as he is to the maximum extent of his ability, he will not count the betrothal gifts. When faced with poor conditions and demanding betrothal gifts, the attitude is repulsive, angry, and unwilling.
