How many boys feel that their girlfriends always quarrel over trivial matters? Maybe it seems like a small thing to you, but to your girlfriend it seems like a small thing that accumulates into a big thing. This is actually a reflection of the difference in thinking between men and women. Let me analyze why my girlfriends always quarrel over trivial matters. You should understand after reading my analysis.
1. Why do girlfriends always quarrel over trivial things?
In a relationship, many girls will have this characteristic: what causes them to quarrel is not what is happening at the moment.
Don’t you understand what this sentence means? Come on, listen to me slowly:
Maybe your girlfriend found out on the 2nd that you were talking to a girl while playing games. She was very unhappy, but she felt that it was because of the conversation between playing games and talking to teammates. Being angry with her boyfriend about something would make her look particularly petty, so she chose to remain silent. At this time, her anger level was 40%, and she could bear it, so she didn't explode;
Your girlfriend is here On the 13th, she discovered that you had told you not to wash socks and underwear together before, but you still threw the socks in the washing machine. She was even more upset, but she was too tired today and was too lazy to talk about it, so she continued to choose She fell silent, her anger level rose to 70% at this time, and she was on the verge of breaking out;
Then, your girlfriend went to watch a movie with you on the 24th, but she clearly told you when she came over Buy her a cup of milk tea with 30% sugar, but you recorded it as 70% sugar... Well, at this time, your girlfriend's anger meter is full, so she loses her temper at you and says: "You don't have any sugar at all." You don’t care about me! You don’t care about my feelings at all! I feel so wronged when I fall in love with you!”… At this time, you are stupid: No, just give it to me. Did my friend order the wrong milk tea? In the worst case, can I just buy her another cup of milk tea? Why did it escalate to the point of quarreling?
——You see, this is why many boys feel that their girlfriends always quarrel over trivial matters. Even at the moment, what you are thinking about is "Why did you buy the wrong milk tea and you don't care about your girlfriend?" You can't think about what happened before that, and you don't know that the reason why your girlfriend quarreled with you was actually because of her The anger has built up to the point where it has to explode.
2. What to do if your girlfriend quarrels over trivial matters
The above examples are just the tip of the iceberg. In fact, real cases are more complicated.
Because boys think more directly, I will say whatever I think about. What I think about is what is happening in front of me. If I want to quarrel, it is most likely because of two reasons: 1. I want to pass Express my dissatisfaction and anger to get you to make concessions. 2. I want to stop the conversation between us through the expression of anger.
But girls’ thinking is more abstract. When they quarrel, they are more venting their emotions, not necessarily solving any problems. In fact, the reason why many girls quarrel is not to tell the other party "You did this wrong", but to tell the other party "The way you handle things makes me feel particularly uncomfortable."
In this case, the best thing to do is to talk openly and honestly with your girlfriend and ask her what she wants. What, what did I neglect to do about her before, in order to fundamentally solve the problem. Otherwise, you end up having a quarrel, but each of you is stuck in your own thoughts, and then it's probably not too far away from breaking up.
