Recently, while chatting with a few buddies, I noticed a common frustration: when talking to girls, they often can't find the right vibe, either ending up in awkward conversations or just fizzling out. Honestly, I used to face this issue frequently too, but over time, I've picked up some small tricks. Today, I’d like to share these with you, hoping they might help.
First, it's essential to understand a fundamental truth: girls are emotionally driven creatures. They care more about the atmosphere and emotional experience of the conversation rather than the topic itself. As some netizens say, "Topics never attract girls; initially, a girl is interested in a guy because of the person, not the topic." Therefore, we need to learn to use dual-line thinking when chatting with girls.
The first line of thinking is about the topic and direction of the conversation. This is pretty straightforward—ask questions, give feedback, and ask more questions. Although it might seem a bit dull, it at least keeps the conversation going. However, relying solely on this isn't enough; we need to incorporate a second line of thinking: injecting humor and playful elements. For instance, you can use misinterpretation, teasing, jokes, or internet slang to make the conversation more engaging. Here's an example:
Guy: Where are you from?
Girl: Sichuan.
Guy: Hmm, you don’t seem like a typical Sichuanese.
Girl: Really?
Guy: I heard girls from there are quite feisty, but you seem pretty gentle.
Girl: Haha, I guess so.
See how this makes the conversation more interesting than just dryly asking questions? A sense of humor is crucial as it helps build more interaction with the girl, preventing the conversation from becoming too straightforward and boring.
Secondly, humorously handling a girl's negative feedback is also key. Sometimes, a girl might be cold or even reject you. In such cases, don’t panic or rush to explain. Instead, use humor to defuse the awkwardness. For example:
Girl: I’m not really into you.
Guy: With the pandemic so severe, if you catch a cold, wouldn’t we both end up in quarantine?
Girl: …
Guy: I need to protect myself.
This approach avoids directly addressing the rejection, shifts the topic, and stimulates the girl's emotions, thereby closing the distance between you.
Lastly, appropriately guiding the girl towards meeting in person is an important step. When the conversation is going well, try inviting her out. However, she might refuse out of modesty. Here, you need to guide her appropriately to ease her concerns. For example:
Girl: I’m afraid you might eat me up.
Guy: Just don’t secretly play any tricks on me.
Such a reply not only balances the relationship but also creates a relaxed and pleasant atmosphere, providing a reasonable excuse for meeting up.
In summary, chatting with girls isn’t that hard; the key is mastering the rhythm and techniques. I hope these little tricks can help you, and I wish everyone can find their ideal partner!