Recently, while chatting with a few close friends about the topic of relationships, everyone had a lot to say. One friend mentioned that she recently met a guy through a blind date who seemed great on paper, but something just felt off. This reminded me of an article I read before, which discussed three major pitfalls women should avoid when choosing a partner. Today, I want to share my understanding and insights on this.
First, don't rely too much on your friends' advice. This might sound a bit harsh, but upon reflection, it's true. Just like Luo Zijun and Tang Jing in "The First Half of My Life," who were originally best friends but ended up in a bitter feud over a man. There are many real-life examples where a friend helps you vet a potential partner, only to end up becoming the main character themselves. So, when it comes to love, trust your own judgment. After all, only you know if the shoe fits.
Second, don"t be overly sensitive. Women are naturally more delicate and can easily overthink small details. For instance, if your boyfriend talks a bit more to another girl or likes a beautiful woman's photo on social media, you might start suspecting that he's losing interest. In reality, most of the time, it's just overthinking. As the philosopher Locke said, "The trials of life are many, so we should not be overly sensitive to every minor hurt." In a relationship, a certain level of sensitivity is necessary, but being overly sensitive will only exhaust both you and your partner.
Lastly, don"t always demand things. Some women think it's only natural for their boyfriend to buy them gifts or take them out to eat. But a relationship is a two-way street. If you only take without giving back, such a relationship is unlikely to last. As Yi Shu said, "Romantic relationships won't last long. Which relationships will? Marital relationships? Friendships? Competitive relationships? No matter the relationship, you need to constantly motivate and renew yourself." Therefore, women should also learn to be independent in a relationship and not always rely on the other person.
Speaking of which, I recall a comment from a netizen: "Marriage is a gamble; if you win, it's heaven; if you lose, it's hell." Although this is a bit exaggerated, it does highlight the uncertainty of marriage. So, when choosing a partner, we must keep our eyes wide open and approach it rationally.
Additionally, there are some key points to consider when judging whether a woman is suitable for a serious relationship. For example, see if she knows how to reciprocate. If you"re always the one paying for dates and she won't even buy a bottle of water, such a woman might not be suitable for a long-term relationship. Another example is to see if she is kind. Someone who shows compassion for animals and empathy for the less fortunate in society will usually be more considerate and caring towards their partner.
Finally, I want to say that love and marriage are parts of life, but not the entirety. No matter who you meet, the most important thing is to stay true to yourself and keep improving. As another netizen said, "Improving yourself, believing in yourself, and staying true to yourself is what's reliable."
I hope today"s sharing is helpful to everyone. If you have similar experiences or insights, feel free to leave a comment, and let's discuss together.
