Recently, while chatting with a close friend about relationships, I noticed that many women tend to feel "awkward" in their romantic endeavors. This term is incredibly apt—it's like wearing a piece of clothing that just doesn't feel right, no matter how you adjust it. I've experienced this state myself and wanted to share some thoughts on the topic today.
I recall a date where the guy wanted to hold my hand, and I instinctively pulled away, blurting out, "We're moving too fast." In truth, I liked him, but I felt that moving too quickly would make me seem less reserved. Later, after reading some psychology articles, I understood that when women say "we're moving too fast," it's often not a true rejection but a need for more security.
As "Mr. Lin Who Doesn't Eat Spicy" mentioned in the comments, being honest is crucial. Instead of hiding your feelings, it's better to express them openly. For example, you could say, "I really like you, but I hope we can take things slow; it would make me feel more secure." This way, you express your affection while setting your own pace.
Speaking of feeling awkward, I have deep feelings about this. I used to like someone, my heart racing, yet I acted as if nothing was happening. When friends asked, I would stubbornly say, "No, we're just friends." Looking back, it seems silly—I missed many opportunities. As the article says, admitting you like someone isn't shameful; it actually makes you seem sincere and endearing.
Another crucial point is to believe that you are worthy of love. I used to think I wasn"t good enough for great guys, and when someone confessed their feelings, I thought they were joking. Gradually, I learned to accept myself and realized that I, too, could be loved. The worst thing in a relationship is a low sense of self-worth; the more you feel unworthy, the more likely you are to ruin the relationship.
"18847345155" in the comments suggested showing more care, which I strongly agree with. However, care should not be about pleasing but about mutual giving on an equal basis. Instead of constantly worrying about whether the other person will leave, it's better to nurture the current relationship. As one reader mentioned, after a breakup, they felt relieved because they no longer had to be anxious about losing the relationship.
So, ladies, don't overthink in relationships. If you like someone, admit it openly; if you need security, say it; if things feel too fast, express it. The most important thing in a relationship is to be your true self and enjoy the sweetness of the moment. Remember, you are worthy of love and deserve a beautiful romance.
Finally, here's a thought to leave you with: Only by saying goodbye to the wrong person can you meet the right one. Instead of dwelling on the past, focus on nurturing the present. May we all be our most authentic selves in love and find the best romance.