Recently, while chatting with a few buddies, the topic of girls saying "going to take a shower" or "feeling sleepy" came up. Everyone admitted they had stumbled over these "hidden messages." Honestly, sometimes what girls say can be like a puzzle, especially those seemingly simple daily conversations that might hide a lot of subtle intentions. Today, I’ll share my understanding and some interesting experiences, hoping to help those who are still "deciphering."
First, when a girl says "going to take a shower," she might not actually be going to shower. Sometimes, she’s actually giving you an opportunity to flirt. As one netizen commented, "The subtext is: I’m going to get all clean, what about you?" In such moments, the girl might be hoping you’ll catch the hint, make a joke, or even engage in a bit of flirtation. If you just naively reply with "Okay, go ahead," you might miss the chance to get closer. I once had a friend who, when a girl said "going to take a shower," replied with "Be careful not to catch a cold," and the girl just stopped responding. Later, he realized she was waiting for him to pick up the conversation, but he was too serious and missed the opportunity.
Second, when a girl says "going to take a shower," she might be hoping you’ll take the initiative to ask her out. Sometimes, girls feel that online chatting isn’t enough anymore; they want to meet you but are too shy to say it directly. At this point, "going to take a shower" might be a signal, hinting that she’s getting ready to go out. If you can seize this opportunity and casually invite her out, you might just succeed. I have a friend who, when a girl said "going to take a shower," immediately followed up with "Want to grab a coffee after your shower?" The girl played hard to get but eventually agreed. In such cases, the girl’s "refusal" is actually a subtle expression, and it’s up to you to have the courage to keep asking.
Of course, there’s also the possibility that the girl really doesn’t want to chat anymore and is just making an excuse to brush you off. In this case, they might say "going to take a shower" or "feeling sleepy," but they’re not actually going to shower or sleep; they’re probably scrolling through social media or chatting with someone else. This situation can be quite disheartening, but there’s not much you can do about it, as relationships are a two-way street. If you notice a girl always using these excuses to end conversations, it might indicate she’s not very interested in you, and you should consider whether it’s time to let go.
As for when a girl says "feeling sleepy," the underlying messages are quite similar. Sometimes, she’s genuinely tired and wants to rest; other times, she might be hinting that it’s time to end the conversation; and sometimes, she might be testing you to see if you care about her. For example, if a girl says "feeling sleepy," and you reply with "Get some rest, good night," she might feel you’re not being considerate enough. But if you reply with "Did you have a tiring day? Want me to tell you a story?" she might find you very warm and caring.
In summary, sometimes you really need to put in a bit more effort to understand what girls are saying. They might not express their thoughts directly but instead convey signals through seemingly ordinary conversations. The key is to learn to read between the lines and catch those subtle hints. Of course, it’s also important not to overinterpret things; stay natural and sincere, as relationships are built on mutual understanding and trust.
Finally, I want to say that everyone expresses themselves differently, and there’s no fixed formula. The most important thing is to genuinely feel the other person’s emotions and needs, rather than just guessing and speculating. I hope my sharing can be helpful to everyone, and I welcome you to share your own experiences and views in the comments!