Recently, while chatting with friends about the topic of love, I suddenly realized that many of my friends are troubled by relationship issues. Some girls always complain about not meeting the right person, while some boys are too shy to make the first move. This reminded me of some love tips I came across before, and today I’d like to share my insights with you.
First, for girls, the most important thing in a relationship is not to over-invest. I have a friend who liked a boy so much that she ended up making herself feel very inferior. She always initiated dates, gave gifts, and even paid for all the expenses. What happened? The boy not only didn’t cherish her but also started to take her for granted. Eventually, she woke up and decisively ended the relationship. She said, “I finally understand that love isn’t something you earn by sacrificing yourself.” This really struck a chord with me.
In fact, efforts in a relationship should be mutual. If only one side is making an effort while the other remains indifferent, the relationship is doomed to fail. As the netizen “Little Rabbit” said, “Love is a two-person affair; one-sided effort will only make you more and more tired.” So, girls must stay clear-headed in relationships and not lose themselves just because of a fleeting crush.
Additionally, girls should also learn to understand boys. Sometimes, the way boys and girls think can be quite different. For example, boys might value their friendships a lot and sometimes might overlook their girlfriend’s feelings when hanging out with friends. In such cases, girls can give them some space and not be too controlling. After all, appropriate freedom and trust are crucial for maintaining a relationship.
Now, let’s talk about the boys. Many boys are actually most afraid of making the first move in relationships. I have a male friend who missed several opportunities because he was too shy. Later, he decided to be bolder after listening to advice from Scottie Barnes, a player for the Toronto Raptors. Barnes said during a live stream, “Want a girlfriend? It’s simple, go to a mall, find one you like, and ask for her phone number. Don’t be shy.” This might sound a bit direct, but it actually makes a lot of sense.
My friend later tried it and found that it wasn’t as hard as he imagined. He said, “Girls aren’t that scary; as long as you are sincere, they are willing to give you a chance.” Netizen “Sunny Boy” also shared his experience: “The most important thing in approaching someone is confidence. If you act naturally, girls will feel your sincerity.”
So, if boys really want to get out of singlehood, they should go out more and give themselves more opportunities. Don’t just stay at home waiting for fate to drop by. After all, opportunities are for those who are prepared.
In summary, whether you are a boy or a girl, love requires some skills and courage. Girls need to learn to protect themselves and not lose themselves in a relationship; boys need to be bolder and take the initiative. I hope today’s sharing is helpful to everyone, and I wish you all find your own happiness!
