Recently, while chatting with friends, we discussed some small tips on communicating with girls, which I found quite interesting and would like to share with everyone. In fact, many times, when girls say things like "Don't contact me" or "I have a stomachache," there are a lot of underlying messages. If we can understand these underlying messages and respond with high emotional intelligence, not only can we defuse awkward situations, but we can also take the relationship a step further.
Let's first talk about the situation where a girl says, "Don't contact me." Often, when a girl says this, she doesn't really want to cut off contact but may be feeling emotional or there might be a misunderstanding. At this point, if you directly give in or keep asking for reasons, it might make the situation worse. Instead, responding with some humor can make her find you interesting and might even prompt her to contact you first.
For example, you could say, "Oh, it seems I need to sign up for a 'How Not to Get Blocked by Girls' training course." This self-deprecating humor doesn't make you seem too humble but makes her think you're an interesting person. Or you could say, "Alright, I'll go and improve myself, and when I become better, I'll come back to you." This response shows your confidence and also gives her an easy way out.
Now, let"s discuss the situation where a girl says, "I have a stomachache." When a girl says this, she is actually seeking care and comfort. If you simply say, "Drink more hot water," she might feel that you're not considerate enough. Instead, responding with warmth and humor will make her feel that you are thoughtful and caring.
For instance, you could say, "Oh, is your little stomach throwing a tantrum? Tell it that with me around, it's not allowed to bully you." This humorous approach can make her feel relaxed and also express your concern. Or you could say, "Haha, is your stomach upset because it wants me to take care of you? Then I better perform well." This teasing tone can make her find it amusing and also feel your care.
Of course, besides humor, actual actions are also important. For example, you could say, "Let me order you some warm porridge, eating something warm will make you feel better." Or "When you feel better, I'll take you out for some good food to make up for the discomfort." This kind of practical care often has more impact than mere words.
In fact, whether it"s "Don't contact me" or "I have a stomachache," the key is to understand the underlying messages of the girl and respond with high emotional intelligence. Humor, care, and actual actions are all great strategies. Of course, the most important thing is to be sincere, as only sincere care and humor can truly touch her heart.
Finally, here's a comment from a netizen: "I used to never know how to respond to what girls said, and it always ended up being awkward. Later, I learned to respond with humor, and found that girls were more willing to chat with me." Indeed, humor and sincerity are often the best ways to communicate. I hope these small tips can help everyone, and I hope everyone can find their own rhythm in communication.
