As someone who was once a dating novice myself, I deeply understand the feelings of guys who have a small social circle and want to get out of singlehood but don't know where to start. Honestly, I used to suffer from social anxiety too, always feeling awkward about taking the initiative to meet girls, let alone adding them on WeChat. But later, I realized that finding a girlfriend isn't as hard as it seems; the key is to find the right approach that suits you.
First, we need to acknowledge a fact: having a small social circle is indeed a significant drawback. As a friend of mine once said, "Every day, I just go to work and then go home to play video games. I don't even see a single girl around. How am I supposed to get out of singlehood?" This sounds heartbreaking, but upon closer thought, we actually have plenty of opportunities around us. For instance, have you noticed those friends in your circle who love organizing gatherings? They might just be your "singlehood saviors." I have a colleague like this; every time he organizes a gathering, he invites a few new friends. Gradually, his social circle expanded, and he eventually found a girlfriend.
Speaking of which, I recall a particularly interesting case. There was a guy who thought he was average in looks and height, making him uncompetitive in the dating market. But he took a different approach by joining Jackson Yee"s fan club, seriously following the star and sharing his thoughts, which led him to meet many girls. In the end, he actually found a girlfriend. This strategy of "misaligned competition" is brilliant! If you feel you don't have an advantage in traditional social settings, why not try such niche areas? You might be pleasantly surprised.
Of course, some might say, "I feel awkward even adding someone on WeChat, let alone taking the initiative to meet girls." I totally understand this mindset. I used to be the same, always feeling uncomfortable adding strangers on WeChat, afraid they might think I had ulterior motives. But later, I realized that instead of obsessing over a "whitelist system" (only adding those you think are worth talking to), it's better to try a "blacklist system"—get to know people broadly first, and if they're not suitable, just block them. This way, your social pressure will be much less, and you'll have more opportunities.
A netizen in the comments section put it well: "Sometimes, a girlfriend really isn't as good as the ten-finger girl." Although this is a bit of a joke, it reflects a reality: many people have too high expectations for relationships, thinking that finding a girlfriend will solve all their problems. In fact, dating is just a part of life. While finding the right partner is important, what's more crucial is improving yourself and broadening your horizons in the process.
Finally, I want to say that having a small social circle isn't a reason you can't find a girlfriend. The key is to take the initiative and step out of your comfort zone. Whether it's through introductions from friends, joining interest groups, or trying misaligned competition, as long as you're willing to try, opportunities will come. As "Happy Little Lamb Kw" in the comments section said: "What you see might be this, but don't imagine that all guys are like this." Everyone has their own pace; finding the right way for you is just a matter of time.
So, don"t rush, take it slow, and opportunities will favor those who are willing to put in the effort. Keep it up!