Recently, while chatting with friends about the topic of getting into a relationship, I noticed that many guys are complaining: girls are too hard to chase! One moment they're as warm as fire, the next they're as cold as ice, and it's completely baffling what they're thinking. As someone who's been through it, I think instead of complaining, it's better to try to understand the psychological needs of girls. Today, let's talk about this topic, hoping to give some inspiration to those of you who are pursuing love.
First, we need to understand what girls value most in a relationship? Security, the feeling of being loved, and hope for the future. These three points sound simple, but they're not easy to achieve.
Security is the foundation. Girls need to feel that you are sincere and won"t hurt her. Many guys in the pursuit process are always in a hurry, eager to establish a relationship immediately. But girls often need more time to observe and judge. Like my friend Xiao Zhang, he chased a girl for half a year, and the girl was always hot and cold. Xiao Zhang once wanted to give up, but later he adjusted his mindset, no longer rushing for success, but slowly showing his strengths, and eventually won the girl's trust.
The feeling of being loved is also very important. Girls want to feel that you genuinely like her, not just for the sake of getting into a relationship. For example, some girls care whether you reply to messages instantly, some care whether you are willing to spend money on her, and others care whether you are willing to accommodate her. These details can make a girl feel loved. I have a friend Xiao Li, who was always very attentive when chasing girls, remembering the girl"s preferences, and even taking time off to take care of her when she was sick. The girl was eventually moved by his sincerity, and they got together.
Finally, girls want to see hope for the future. They don"t want to just have a relationship that goes nowhere. So, in the pursuit process, besides being good to the girl, guys also need to show their ambition and plans for the future. For example, the famous rapper GAI, when he was pursuing his wife, although his conditions were not good, he showed his talent and hard work, and eventually won the girl's trust.
Of course, in the process of pursuing love, setbacks are inevitable. As someone in the comments section said: "Everyone is busy, no one has time to wait for you to warm up." Indeed, the pace of modern life is fast, and many people don't have the patience to wait. But I think love requires time and patience. Instead of rushing for success, it's better to take it slow and manage it with heart.
Finally, what I want to say is that the process of pursuing love is actually a process of self-improvement. No matter the outcome, you will become better in this process. So, don"t be afraid of failure, bravely pursue it!
I hope these shares can be helpful to you. If you have similar experiences or thoughts, feel free to share in the comments section, let"s chat together!
