Generally speaking, boys usually take the initiative when chasing girls. They take the initiative to send messages to girls, take the initiative to ask girls out for dinner, and take the initiative to find topics to chat. Over time, boys will find out why they are always the ones taking the initiative, and girls will not take the initiative to send messages. I took the initiative, but this situation is not conducive to future development. So how to change the situation of girls not taking the initiative?
1. Chatting leaves suspense
Because many girls are used to boys taking the initiative to send her messages, and it is the boys who take the initiative to pursue her. If this situation is to be changed, boys must invisibly reverse it. For example, after she goes to bed, you send her an interesting video or something in the middle of the night. Normally, she'll get back to you the next day when she wakes up. Or if she says she's going to eat, just say you'll wait until she comes back to finish eating before chatting, leaving your chat in suspense and giving you an excuse to restart the chat.
2. Guide girls to chat more
Be a guide, guide her to talk more, guide her to find In other words, guide her to do something to maintain the relationship. Only after you let the girl do something for the relationship will she become more interested in you and not let it go easily. As for how to guide girls to talk more to you? You can come up with a topic that a girl is interested in, and then she can't help but want to share it with you. Or you ask the girl to do you a favor and teach you how to get up the next day. In these processes, you not only guide the girl to talk more to you, but also slowly guide the girl to pay more to you. The deeper the girl sinks, the less likely it is for her to give up the connection with you, and you will slowly reach the end. It just fell into place.
3. Provide girls with reasons to chat
Girls feel that they have no reason to start talking to you right away. Chat happily, especially if you start the conversation in a boring way, she will be too lazy to pay attention to you. So we need to provide the girl with reasons, such as what is your name, why do you want to chat with her, why are you so enthusiastic about her, and let the girl know the reasons, so that she can untie the identity definition of "just met, not familiar" and put it in her heart. firewall so that she can chat with you with normal heat. For example:
Male: "I just saw the short video you posted on Moments. You play the piano really well! It has a very mini piano sound." (The content the girl posted on Moments is for people to praise her. , if you say this, she won’t be wary of you, and she will naturally be enthusiastic about you)
Girl: “Hahaha, actually I’m still a novice, I haven’t learned it for a few days, so I’m a bit embarrassed. ”
Male: “That’s really talented. I sound like my classmates who have been studying music professionally since high school.” (It’s a reasonable compliment, and the girl won’t think you’re being serious.) Deliberately please her. When you meet such an admirer, the girl has no reason to refuse to have a pleasant chat with you.field.
Finally, for the girl you like, if you can have a good chat, why care about who takes the initiative. Taking the initiative is just the beginning and has no meaning. And for a girl who is insecure and afraid that what she has done will result in zero repayment and make herself sad, if you take the initiative to chat with her, she will reply to you. If you don't take the initiative to talk to her, she will feel sad alone. In fact, she still likes you, but Her personality prevents her from taking the initiative. If you really like her, why are you willing to make her so sad?
