Every time when chatting with the opposite sex, many boys will feel nervous, worried, uneasy and other emotions, and it is these that cause them to not perform perfectly or even make mistakes during the chat. Honest people are very easy to do this at this time. Falling into the cold spot of chatting!
Due to overly tense nerves, we are always in a high-pressure mood and do not have the energy and time to adapt to changes in the cold spot, which greatly reduces the impression of the opposite sex on us, so the performance of chatting reflects out of its own attractiveness.
How to chat with the opposite sex without being indifferent
The main reasons for being indifferent are: the opposite sex does not want to talk to you; The opposite sex doesn’t know how to answer your words; you talk too incoherently...
1. The opposite sex doesn’t want to talk to you
First of all, we need to eliminate the first reason why chatting with the opposite sex ends in silence Factor - the opposite sex is unwilling to chat with you.
Your external image has affected the opposite sex’s judgment of you from the beginning. This judgment is the basis for whether the opposite sex is willing to chat with you!
Some people appear as soon as they appear. , will make the opposite sex want to get close, understand, and know each other; when some people show up, they will make the opposite sex avoid, stay away, and hate you; the essence behind this difference is your external image.
Characteristics that attract the opposite sex: charming smile, good sense of humor, confidence and calmness, excellent IQ, good credit, tall physique, stable income...
2. The opposite sex doesn’t know how to answer your words
The reason for this is usually that the topic you are talking about involves the opposite sex’s knowledge blind spot. When you talk to a person of the opposite sex about something that she can't understand at all, she will definitely not be able to respond to your chat well.
Chatting is based on a state of reciprocity. If your message cannot be understood by the other party, then the opposite sex will probably give up chatting with you!
Therefore we often say, When chatting with the opposite sex, you should talk about topics that the other sex is interested in!
If the topic you bring up is a topic that the opposite sex doesn’t care about, doesn’t care about, or doesn’t understand, then it will be difficult for her to continue chatting with you.
3. What you said is too incoherent
This phenomenon is basically caused by our own lack of emotional control.
Before chatting with the opposite sex, we should make various preparations: topic preparation, emotional preparation, facial expression preparation, voice preparation, posture preparation...
Even if you have thought about the relationship in advance Girls talk about anything, but your unstable mood, unnatural expressions, and strange movements will affect your chat performance and lead to incoherence.
The cold scene is not caused by any one partyIt is usually caused by multiple factors. If you really feel unnatural, just strike up a conversation first.
Techniques for Chat Control
Sometimes chatting with the opposite sex is awkward because we lack chat control. Skills in chatting,
1. Resonance, chatting and controlling the field requires you to maintain a state of resonance with the opposite sex. Many times you don’t want to chat with the other party because the other party is not in the same channel as us. For example, the opposite sex said today that she is traveling to Xi’an. , and you happen to have been to Taiyuan, Shanxi, Pingyao Ancient City, and Hukou Waterfall, then you can find resonance through these topics.
2. Guidance, chat control is to let the opposite sex chat according to your rhythm, instead of letting the chat develop with the flow or being led by the opposite sex. Always remember the purpose of your chat (attraction) (opposite sex), and then think about how to achieve this goal. Only by chatting with the opposite sex in this way of thinking can you control the situation.
3. Field, everyone has their own field of expertise. If you can introduce the topic into the field that you are good at, then your expression, confidence and creativity will be enriched when chatting with the opposite sex. It will also bring more pleasure to the opposite sex.
