Many boys think that if they chase a girl, they can win her heart as long as they are good enough to her.
But if you are too good to a girl, it can easily turn into kneeling and licking. Such kneeling and licking may make the girl enjoy your efforts in a short period of time, and then you will gain her short-term favor, but In the future, you can only continue to increase your own costs to maintain this relationship. As a result, she is always running ahead and you are always chasing behind, making the emotional gap between high and low too large. When he feels that you are of no use, he will break up. So how do you chase a girl without kneeling and licking her?
How do you chase a girl without kneeling and licking her?
Between the sexes In a relationship, attraction depends on two aspects, one is your own value, and the other is your availability (or sense of need).
In the first case, if you have high self-worth, are rich, beautiful, and have high emotional intelligence, and your availability is higher, that is to say, it will be easy for anyone who wants to start a relationship with you. Agree, your attraction will not be too high at this time;
In the second case, if your own value is very high, and you are very cold and do not easily start a relationship, then you are Girls are attractive in front of them, and your attraction is extremely high;
In the third situation, if your own value is not high, but you do not easily start a relationship, although you are attractive The power is average, but at least it still has some appeal.
The fourth situation, which is also the worst situation, is that you are not of high value, but you are always on your knees. At this time, you basically cannot attract girls.
Therefore, the only way to pursue a girl is to increase your own value without kneeling and licking her. After all, in the emotional world, it is best if they are evenly matched, have little difference in value, and have similar availability.
When it comes to increasing value, many brothers think that they should work hard to make money and beautify their appearance. But our abilities cannot be improved in the short term, and our appearance and figure cannot be changed in the short term. What should we do?
There are three types of values ??in relationships:
One is the value of reproduction. It’s your face and body. Good-looking people have genes that are beneficial to future generations;
One is survival value, which is your academic qualifications and work, which in layman’s terms is the ability to make money;
The last one is emotional value: whether you are interesting, whether you can communicate easily and pleasantly, and whether you can understand her heart.
As long as these three values ??are outstanding, you will not be single. Since the first two cannot be changed, then we must work hard to improve the emotional value and make your emotional value equal, at least there will be no big high or low.
