I have a very good relationship with my girlfriend, but I accidentally find that she still pays attention to her ex’s activities and seems to be unable to let go of her ex. What should I do in this situation?
1. Three Chapters of the Agreement
Although expressing trust is our basic attitude, there is no such thing as the rekindling of an old relationship. We have to guard against this possibility.
Therefore, at this time, you need to make a clear agreement with the other party and tell her what things are unacceptable to you and it is best for her not to do them.
You can say to him like this:
"Dear, you are friends, and I believe you, but you still have to pay attention when you should pay attention. I don’t want to be in trouble because of some things. It will cause unnecessary misunderstandings between us, so there are some things I think it is necessary to let you know first... (Then, make a clear agreement with the other party in three chapters)"
For example:</ p>
You are not allowed to travel alone with the opposite sex without the other person knowing;
You are not allowed to have any physical contact with the other person, including hugs, shoulders, etc.;
< p> It is forbidden to make any verbal comparisons between the current and the ex;2. Put yourself and your girlfriend into the same camp h2>
If you want to make your girlfriend forget about your ex, you should not rush to point the finger at her, but put her into the same camp as yourself and be consistent with the outside world.
For example, you can take the opportunity to praise your girlfriend: I think the person you liked before is not much worse. After all, you are so good. It’s just right. You can take this opportunity to get to know him.
Always show that you and your girlfriend are a whole and always stand in the same camp, so that your relationship can be more stable.
3. Do a good job in psychological construction
Many times, what we lose is not the other person’s predecessor but the other person’s predecessor. It's ourselves.
It is obvious that the other person no longer thinks about his ex, but in the end because of our suspicion and unreasonable troubles, the relationship came to an end, because in your opinion, the other person’s ex will always be in your heart. Root thorn.
You must know that a person’s life is actually like a marathon. Maybe the other person has run alongside others along the way, but in the end the person who can run with him to the finish line is the one with him. The one who is evenly matched and has the perseverance to persevere until the end.
Finally, what I want to say is that no matter what purpose or evil intentions your ex has, you must first do your duty as a boyfriend.
The deeper the foundation of your relationship, the more you win, the more certain her love for you will be, and the position of your ex in your girlfriend’s heart will beThe lower it is, the less of a threat it is to you.
