Most people worry about gains and losses when facing the people they like. Even if they reply to a WeChat message late, they will start to feel overwhelmed with all kinds of emotions. Worry, anxiety, fear, sadness, and irritability will flood into their hearts. So why? What happens when this happens?
1. Why do most people worry about gains and losses when facing someone they like?
Most people If we like someone, we will invisibly connect ourselves with the other person very closely, hoping that the other person will reply to us on WeChat and chat with us according to our subconscious plan.
But when the other party doesn’t do this, he panics. This is actually a desire for control.
So when we are not aware of this problem, we may have put some invisible pressure on the other party, making them feel that we are too controlling.
You may be thinking: Why not her, but me? Why can’t I be like her? I never seem to go two hours without replying to someone else’s WeChat message.
Let’s talk about something heartbreaking. Are you too idle? Have you been chatting for a long time, but there is no actual progress in the relationship? Are your friends compared with the people you like? Obviously less than her?
If so, then you will understand.
For example, on the weekends, you don’t go out much and have nothing to do. Then, subconsciously, it is really harmful to others and delays things. You feel that others are similar to you and feel that This is a great time to chat.
But maybe she has arranged a lot of things there, for example, girls like to go shopping, get a beauty treatment, and get their nails done.
Her time is divided into many chunks, and you may only be given a small chunk of it, but you should give her a large chunk of your own time.
At this time, the relationship becomes unconsciously unequal. Of course you are the one who is emotionally unstable, and you will naturally become worried about gains and losses.
2. What should I do if I worry about gains and losses when facing the person I like?
I want to get rid of this kind of worry about gains and losses. , in fact, the method is very simple. If you don't object to making new friends in your heart, then expand your circle of friends, arrange more spare time activities, and fill up your time.
Get in touch with more things you have never played with (positive and sunny), maybe the person you like will be tricked by you one day.
If you are more introverted and don’t like socializing, you can develop a new hobby and spend more time on this hobby, such as playing guitar, painting, and singing.
When you master a skill, it’s different now. WaitWhen you chat again and she asks you what you are doing, you will have a lot to say.
At this time, you are exchanging value and showing value. If you are happy, she will be happy too, how great.
