Perhaps young couples can quarrel at the end of the bed, because the freshness of getting married is still there, and they haven’t experienced so much trouble between each other. The quarrels are only minor matters, so it is easy to reconcile. But for middle-aged couples, their relationship has long been wiped out by life, and it is difficult to reconcile after a quarrel. But life still has to go on. Let’s talk about how to resolve conflicts between middle-aged couples when they quarrel?
1. Learn to apologize
In fact, no matter which middle-aged couple they are, they will accumulate conflicts when they quarrel. This is normal. But the key point is that even though some middle-aged couples have been married for a long time, they still cannot learn to admit their mistakes and apologize. In fact, many middle-aged couples have some old grudges. For example, you insulted me or hurt me about something, and you still don't have a good attitude to apologize. You should apologize to me and vent all my years of resentment. One party really wants to receive an apology, but the other party refuses to apologize, and the anger remains stuck. Sometimes middle-aged couples have to learn to apologize after a quarrel, and resolving conflicts can only be done with one sentence.
2. Express your needs
Some middle-aged couples feel that the other party’s actions cannot be tolerated. If you get what you want, for example, when you get home and see the other person sitting on the sofa playing with their mobile phone and not planning to cook, of course you may feel uncomfortable, but don't stop feeling uncomfortable until it accumulates to a certain level and you start to quarrel. In fact, most of the time in your marriage, the other person doesn't make you happy. It's not because they don't want to, or because they don't want to or don't care about you. It’s that they don’t understand, they don’t know, they don’t know, so we have to learn to speak, express, and teach them, so that the other party will know your needs and do things that satisfy you.
3. Don’t communicate based on emotions
The reason why many middle-aged couples cannot sit down and communicate well is Instead, it ended in a quarrel. The fundamental reason was that they communicated with emotions. Just imagine, when we feel unable to communicate, it may be because: you regard expressing dissatisfaction, anger, complaints, venting and accusations against the other party as communication. In fact, communication with emotions is invalid communication. There is no communication effect. This is not communication but accusation and complaint. Then the more the two parties communicate, the angrier they will become, and eventually it will develop into a quarrel and a quarrel, and the matter will not be resolved well.
4. Take a step back from each other
Middle-aged couples who love to quarrel generally have a win-lose mentality. They just want to prove that they are right and the other party is wrong during a quarrel. They always think that they are not at fault and that the fault is all the other party's. They don’t understand that when either spouse loses, it’s actually both of them who lose. You two are connected, you twoWe are all one, and quarreling will only hurt both of you. Sometimes when we take a step back, it seems like we are losing, but actually we are winning.
How do middle-aged couples resolve conflicts when they quarrel? In fact, both parties need to be considerate of each other, express their inner thoughts to each other, and sit down and talk calmly. There is no conflict that cannot be resolved. And quarreling will never solve the problem.
