Foreword
It is a woman’s nature to love beauty. Whether before or after marriage, there is no woman who does not love beauty, and there is no woman who does not want her partner to focus all his attention on herself. When she was young, she had the time and energy to dress herself up. After many women get married, they often neglect their makeup and figure. Such selfless dedication results in aging, paleness and out-of-shape figures. At this time, what a woman cares most about is how her partner feels about her. Are you still loving and caring, or are you disgusted?
Especially for couples who have been married for many years and are about to enter middle age, this is what women care about most.
Let’s share the attitudes of several male colleagues in the company towards their wives. Let’s take a look.
When I got off work two days ago, a group of people were chatting: For couples who have been married for many years, does the husband mind the changes in his wife’s body?
Brother Liu said: I am 36 years old and have been married for 11 years. Before getting married, my wife was extremely beautiful and had a legendary A4 waist figure. After so many years, she is no longer what she used to be, becoming a little older at different ages.
After the child was born, she focused all her thoughts on the child and had no energy or motivation to dress herself up, nor did she pay attention to her figure. Seeing her getting rounder and rounder, to be honest, I feel sad, but she really doesn't have much interest, and she has nothing to dissatisfy.
Sometimes, I would ask her to pay attention to my figure, but after many years of marriage, she turned a deaf ear to my words and often said: "What's wrong? You dislike me for being fat. It's useless to dislike me. I don't care." I can't go back."
Ah, actually I really don't dislike her, I just dislike her figure. I can't hold her down. Oh my God, it's too difficult. Once this person gets fat, If you eat it, you will eat a lot. Although it doesn't matter how much you eat or drink, the fatter a person is, the more various diseases will follow. She didn't want to wait until the day something happened to regret it. .
So, because of my wife’s figure problem, we often quarreled, so I had to listen to me. Although I still love her, I really don't want to hold this 150 pounds of fat every day and have a headache.
If my wife can really lose weight and have a healthy body, won’t her happy days be longer and longer in the future? I don’t want to get fat and if something happens, I don’t want to live alone in silence in 30 or 40 years.
The wife who only ate eggs and a spoonful of rice for one meal before marriage now eats two large bowls. The wife who weighed 90 pounds before marriage and weighed 150 pounds after marriage especially likes to eat fat meat. Sitting means lying down.
To be honest, I really can’t stand it anymore. I usually like sports. Although I am 36 years old, I look like I am in my early 30s. she.
Actually, I also want my wife to move. I prefer slim women to fat women. This not only looks good, but more importantly, is healthy.
Many people always say that once a woman gets old, men will dislike her. In fact, this is not the case.
I don’t hate my wife at all. What I don't like is that she has no demands on me. What I don't like is her irresponsibility for her own health, which is also irresponsible for our relationship.
Looking at my 150-pound wife, I was speechless. Although I was a little disgusted, I didn't dare to express it at all. You know, when a woman is fierce, the old man can only suffer.
So now, apart from going to work, I don’t want to go back. I don't dare to talk about my wife's weight loss because she will argue with me for a long time. In the end, it ended in my failure. This feeling is very depressing. She doesn’t know when she will wake up. Being too fat is really bad for the body. It’s better to be thinner. Wouldn’t it be good?
This is what Brother Liu said. He is very concerned about his wife's figure. In fact, the most important thing is to worry about my wife's health. I think his concerns are actually understandable.
Yes, although we have been married for many years and have a deep relationship, why not do it for the other half to live together and have a little control? I hope Brother Liu’s wife can wake up.
Brother Zhang said: I am 40 years old this year and I don’t mind if my wife is out of shape.
Before getting married, my wife paid special attention to her personal appearance and dressed very fashionably. With a hint of vanity, I proudly tell others that this is my wife.
Since my wife married me and gave birth to a child, a pregnant woman has gained weight. , not uncomfortable here, just a little pain, especially at night, it is a blessing to be able to sleep peacefully.
After giving birth to my daughter, my wife’s confinement period came out, and I felt very sorry for her figure. I also feel very sorry for her. I can't bear to leave her.
My brother went to kindergarten, and my wife, who had just regained her figure, repeated the process of gaining weight in order to have a second child. I don’t know how many times I’ve told you, don’t eat, don’t do this, it doesn’t matter, but my wife just doesn’t listen, saying she’s afraid I’ll be disgusted.
The moment my wife said she was afraid of rejecting me, I felt so uncomfortable. I hugged her gently and said to her: "Wife, I care more about your figure than your body. Your health is more about your mood and more about the hardships you have endured for our children. Don’t think so much, no matter what you look like, I love you.”
How lucky you are to have a woman who gives birth to children for you in this life!
In the past, I only wanted a child, and just one was enough. I didn’t want her to suffer again, but my wife wanted to give me a son, and to bear the pain of life again would be worse than death, wife. How can you dislike an out-of-shape figure?
In this life, I want to love her, protect her, and pamper her. I don’t want my wife to feel that she will be disliked by her husband because of her out-of-shape figure. What does it mean for two people to get married? Do you have me in you? Do you have you in me?
Brother Zhang’s words let usVery touched. For a woman to bear children for you is already a great kindness. This kind of dedication is not in words, but in action. In order to have a child, if the child is born out of shape, what right does the husband have to dislike him? How can I bear it?
Uncle Wang said: I really mind, who doesn’t want his wife to be slim, beautiful and cute?
But my wife is not as good as I want. When she got married, she was slim and popular. We often watch movies, go shopping, and eat together. That was when I was young and now I'm 45. Yes, maybe it's because they have been married for too long and there is nothing new between the two of them, right?
My wife and I basically sleep in separate rooms now because she is too fat. I thought I wouldn’t mind, but seeing how petite she is, I really don’t mind if one bed can take up half of her sleeping position. !
The longer you are married, the relationship becomes family love and the relationship becomes more and more pure. Maybe it's because of relatives. , making people uncomfortable!
I heard from colleagues around me that some were disgusted and some were not.
I also think that if a woman has been married for many years, she may not care about it for too long, but I always feel that it is important for a woman to maintain her figure no matter what. She has been married for a long time. You should also consciously maintain it if necessary. Although you will gain some weight after marriage, you should not be too fat, otherwise it will affect your health, and the disgust from your other half will be enough to drink a pot.
So, whether you are a woman or a man, no matter how long you have been married, it is still very meaningful to maintain your own external image, whether it is good for the family or the relationship between husband and wife. There are certain benefits.
Of course, the body is our own and we can do whatever we want with it. We don’t necessarily have to please others, nor do we have to steal marriages, but we must take care of ourselves and pay attention to our health.
Women in marriage are actually quite pitiful. When you have children and take care of them, you inevitably don’t have much energy to pay attention to these things. When a woman is busy taking care of her children and the daily life of the family, when she is busy with trivial housework, she really doesn't have much time to manage herself, no time!
At this time, if men can be more tolerant and understanding, take on more housework, give women some time, and give them some time to clean themselves up, I think they will make themselves better.
Conclusion
After listening to my colleagues’ chat, what moved me the most was Brother Zhang’s words. He understands women's difficulties and doesn't care about his wife's size. Maybe this is a good husband. With such a loving husband, I think Mrs. Zhang will be happy.
In fact, sometimes I have been married for too long. Some women will think that I am like this and that this marriage is very strong. But in the real world, there are so many divorces and cheating. Is it really because men are more delicious? ? Although I don't deny this, the wife at home can be slightlyNote the appearance, I imagine a story like this would be a lot less pubish?
The length and depth of marriage are also worthy of our management. Not just the outside, but what's on the inside. Sometimes, crises arise unexpectedly. Don't let appearance be an excuse for a crisis. This is also a question worth thinking about for women in marriage.
As a husband, would you mind a woman who gets out of shape after marriage?
