The obvious problem is that marriage requires intimacy to maintain, but many couples now lack intimacy, which is why the divorce rate remains high. So today we will take a look at what steals the intimacy of marriage?
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Honey turns to arsenic
Men: "I like her as a little bird, she worships and relies on me, and I feel very accomplished." After getting married, "I found that she has no opinion. It makes me feel depressed, and I have no ability to be independent at all.”
Woman: “I like how he works hard, is motivated, and is very promising.” After getting married, “He works overtime every day and doesn’t care about home at all. I can’t listen to what others say, I’m very self-centered.”
The honey-like advantages of the other person before marriage turned into arsenic-like shortcomings after marriage. Realize that every trait has two sides. Just like a coin, you only see the good qualities of the other person, but cannot accept the shortcomings contained in the traits.
Loss of sense of ritual
Men: "I sometimes help out with things, but she always thinks that I don't do well and doesn't say thank you."
Woman: "He knew he was wrong, but he never apologized to me. He couldn't see my contribution at all."
The loss of the sense of ritual in marriage begins with no longer expressing apologies and gratitude. , gradually became no longer willing to express love to the other party.
Refuse to communicate and exchange
Mutual appreciation turns into mutual accusations, mutual need turns into mutual alienation, whether it is the silence of one party or the refusal of both parties to communicate, it means that the heart is broken. Close.
Physical contact has become a luxury
Studies have shown that couples who are not in harmony have a common way of expressing themselves. , that is, they are unwilling to have close contact, such as touching and hugging, these behaviors that promote intimacy have become taboos between them. Whether they don’t want to or dare not, the resistance rises from the physical level to the psychological level, and the loss of intimacy is very likely. leading to infidelity.
One party gives too much
When a marriage is maintained only by the efforts of one person, at least one of the parties will feel that it is in a state of imbalance. Over-paying by one person is just self-indulgent, and always There are times when a person is exhausted and has a desire to escape. Behind a strong wife, there is always an unruly husband. That's it.
Original families that lack a sense of boundaries
Parents in native families that have no boundaries will use emotional bondage to control the lives of their children, just like the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, where the mother-in-law robs her son's family The responsibilities that the husband should bear are removed, and the husband also degenerates into the role of a son.
The confusion of roles will definitely lead to chaos in the family, which also reflects problems in the relationship between husband and wife. If two people cannot unite the front, family happiness will not come.
