Question: I have been with my boyfriend for a year. I had a good relationship with my girlfriend before, and I think she is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with. But recently, through my girlfriend’s roommate, I learned about part of her past. I found out that she had been dating a boyfriend when she was in college, and that she lived with her boyfriend for two or three years after graduation. Knowing this made me feel uncomfortable. What should I do? manage?
Should you mind your girlfriend’s past?
Answer: In fact, when it comes to things like your girlfriend’s past, either you don’t look for it, or if you find it, don’t ask. Don't twist your life. If you really care about your girlfriend's past, then make up your mind to find a girl who was born single as your girlfriend. If you can't find it, just be a bachelor and stop whining.
If you can’t find a girl to be your girlfriend who has never been in love, and you don’t want to be single, find one. I have a past girlfriend, but I am not willing to accept it. Let me tell you, this matter will never go away, and this concern will be with you for the rest of your life. Sooner or later, something will be said in a future quarrel, and it will turn into a thunderbolt.
This situation is very common among people with little love experience, especially those who were born single. Unable to accept that the other person had been with other members of the opposite sex in bed, in the bathroom, or in front of the floor-to-ceiling windows, juices flowed across the room. Then, with exhausting screams, thick genes were poured into the soul channel. Even if you are forced to take over because you have no choice, you will most likely not be willing to accept it.
On the contrary, it is easier for those veterans to reduce the proportion of "past experience" in their mate selection requirements to a very low level in their hearts. It's not that they don't want it, but they know that it's extremely difficult to find someone who can meet various conditions on both sides. It's better to compromise on this thing and then change to other more hard-core conditions. Anyway, they themselves are not serious people, so the grudges in their hearts will be much smaller. If both of them take over, it means that neither of them takes over.
As for the question "Should I care about my girlfriend's past?", "should" or "should not" That's fine. None of them are important and none of them are useful. What matters is whether you have a choice. The fact that you can raise this question means that you cannot convince yourself in your heart. And judging from the current situation, there is a high probability that you have no choice. Change people, beat the bachelor, endure it. Let you choose which way to go.
There is one more thing that needs to be reminded of. What is the purpose of your girlfriend’s roommate telling you about your girlfriend’s past? Have you ever thought about this? Is she telling the truth? Have you ever asked your girlfriend? Is this the actual situation? These are issues you cannot ignore.
