In real life, there are many people who are about to get married, but they stop before marriage and do not want to get married. Do you know why many people suddenly don’t want to get married a few days before their wedding? Generally speaking, if a couple suddenly does not want to get married before marriage, it is most likely due to the following three reasons:
1. They do not want to get married because they have not agreed on money
Two people talk about it Before the marriage was discussed, they had not met each other a few times and had no emotional basis. It was just that the man was worried about marrying the woman and wanted to marry her. With the help of a third party, the two parties negotiated the terms. For example, what kind of house should the man provide, how much betrothal gift should be paid, how much dowry should the woman give, how long should she promise to have children after marriage... When it comes time to get the certificate, the woman suddenly starts to regret it. It is euphemistically called "sincerity and attitude", but in fact, it means that the bride price is less, so overtly and covertly, "more money" is added to one thing.
Usually the invitations are sent out and the happy event of the two people has been made public. The woman starts to raise the price and leaves immediately if she can't get the money. The man was in a dilemma, whether he gave it or not, but he couldn't come up with that much money for a while, so the two of them went home to discuss it with their parents. The woman feels that she has failed in marriage, and the man feels that it is not worth it.
After several rounds of three-party talks, the two people, who had no emotional basis at first, became more and more annoyed in the end, until one party just flipped the table and walked away. The two people who were about to get married did not leave. Within a month, he became a vicious enemy.
2. They don’t want to get married because of thunder before marriage
There are also some people who have had a relationship for one or two years before marriage. The foundation of their relationship is that they have the same family background, and both parties have met their parents, so marriage talks are already on the agenda. Suddenly, there was a thunder.
It may be that the woman discovered that her fiancé had a criminal record, or had a bad habit of pornography, gambling, and drugs, or that he had too many emotional experiences and too many problems left over from history.
It may also be that the man discovers that his fiancée has had the experience of getting pregnant before marriage, or has had an improper career, or has the attribute of a "brother-supporting demon" and wants to give her to his younger brother after marriage. Buy a house.
Once a storm breaks out before marriage, a "crisis of trust" will follow. Because these things should be explained clearly to the other party before falling in love, or when they first get together, and give the other party sufficient time to consider and make trial and error. Even if they bite the bullet and get married after the thunderstorm, this gap will not be eliminated, and they divorced within two years.
3. It’s just suitable but both parties have no desire to get married
Nowadays, there are actually many young people who simply don’t want to get married. I don’t want to get married and I have no desire for marriage. But my parents forced me to go on a blind date, forcing me to go on a blind date. In the end, I couldn't bear the coercion anymore, so I went to see him.A person who is similar to me in every aspect starts talking about marriage.
The purpose of these people’s marriage is not what they like or what they want at all. Most of them want to fulfill their parents’ wishes, thinking, “It’s not easy for parents to support themselves. It’s all about getting married.” "Filial piety." But what about getting married quickly? Instead, these people began to panic.
If I don’t get married, I can spend whatever I earn. If I have nothing to do, I can travel, buy luxury goods, go to bed whenever I want, and go home whenever I want. You can flirt around when you're lonely, and you don't have to worry about life-threatening serial calls when you're crazy. Even if I am old and have no children, I still have enough security to go to a high-end nursing home, play chess with other old men and women, and brag 13, and live a comfortable life.
But what about getting married? I have to pay off my mortgage, buy milk powder for my children, look after my parents-in-law, and go home on time every day to help my children with their homework. I don’t like my partner very much, and I still have to be devoted to this person.
Thinking of this, these people began to be willful. They no longer wanted to get married, and they no longer cared about filial piety or lack of filial piety. If you don't get married, your parents will at most be annoying you. If you get married, the life of the three families is destined to be restless.
After weighing it again and again, these people feel that "the benefits of marriage are far lower than the costs. They would rather not accept it than destroy three families and themselves."
