My girlfriend didn’t say anything after we quarreled
1. Behind the silence
When we quarreled, I chose silence. This does not mean that I am dissatisfied or indifferent to her, but because I know that sometimes words cannot solve the problem, but may intensify the conflict. At this moment, I need to calm down and think about my emotions and thoughts.
2. Introspection and reflection
Silence gives me time to introspect and reflect. I began to look back at the causes of our quarrels and wonder if I had done anything wrong. Maybe my attitude was not gentle enough, or maybe I didn't fully understand her feelings. Through reflection, I can better recognize my problems and work toward improvement.
3. Respect each other’s emotions
When quarreling, both parties will be emotional and it is easy to say hurtful words. As someone who loves her, I don't want to hurt her, so I choose to remain silent. Doing this avoids verbal conflict and respects her emotions. I believe that when she calms down we can communicate and problem solve better.
4. Find the right time
After the quarrel, I will wait for a suitable time to communicate with her again. This time is usually when both parties have calmed down and are emotionally stable. I didn't want to escalate the conflict when she was emotional, but I wanted to be able to have a conversation with her in a calm manner.
5. Listening and understanding
When we sit down to talk, I give her my full attention and listen to her opinions and feelings. I try not to interrupt her and give her enough time to make her point. At the same time, I will try to understand her position and emotions in order to better solve the problem.
6. Express your opinion
After listening to her, I will take my turn to express my opinion. However, I would be careful to speak to her in a gentle tone and avoid accusations or offensive words. I hope that through rational discussions we can find a solution that satisfies both parties.
7. Seek Compromise and Reconciliation
Ultimately, I will try to find a compromise so that we can reconcile. Fighting is not a good thing, but it is also an opportunity for communication and understanding between us. Through this quarrel, we can understand each other better and avoid similar conflicts in the future.
8. Learn lessons
Every fight is a lesson. I reflect on my performance in arguments and work on improving my shortcomings. I hope that through this experience, we can handle emotional issues more maturely and rationally.
Choosing silence when quarreling does not mean escape or indifference, but to create an opportunity for both parties to think calmly and communicate rationally. By listening, understanding and compromising we can better understandsolve problems and make our relationship stronger.
